Music and Rites

I apologize in advanced. My brain is not really working right now. I am kind of sick, but I will do my best.
There are only about three things I can think of where music assists the ceremonies of my house.
The first of these three things is celebrations like birthdays and holidays. In these cases the music is specific to the time and activities. We have a special birthday song- ^.^ I will sing a verse for you sometime. Holidays like Halloween, Christmas, and Yule are definately time specific. People get so annoyed if they hear Christmas music too early or late in the year! For many people it makes them happy to hear the cute Christmas tunes on time though.
Weddings and funerals make me nervous. The music is not so much chosen because of the time, but because of the people. I can mess up a song for the holidays, but I worry so much about messing up a wedding or sending someone off with a flawed gift. Okay, a little time for opening up-I think I may be a little bit of a perfectionist... and the tiniest bit paranoid. Anyway, I feel much closer to the music at a wedding or funeral... that could just be me trying to be somewhere else though.
This might sound strange... but driving is actually a very important time for me. I can calm down while I drive, it is like meditating for me. The music in this case is totally for me and completely based on how I am feeling at the time. When I am very angry I listen to loud bands like System of a Down. If I am sad I put in Prince. When I am nervouse I hear random music like my own recordings, j-pop or classical stuff. Yay music!